Resources

The books, studies, programs, and directories that everything else on this site points to. Each one opens in a new tab.

Read the research behind this tool

The Magic Relationship RatioGottman & Levenson’s 5:1 finding, explained by the Gottman Institute.The Four HorsemenCriticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling — and the antidote to each.Couples Satisfaction Index (Funk & Rogge, 2007)The peer-reviewed study the CSI-4 questions on this site come from.

Work through it together

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage WorkThe Gottmans’ bestseller — the workbook the guide suggests working through.Couples workshopsWeekend programs such as The Art and Science of Love, in person or virtual.Gottman books for every stageFight Right, The Love Prescription, Eight Dates, and more.

Talk to someone

Find a Gottman-trained couples therapistFree directory of clinicians trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy.Find a marriage & family therapist (AAMFT)The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy’s locator.Psychology Today therapist directoryFilter by location, insurance, and couples therapy.

If you need help right now

988 Suicide & Crisis LifelineCall or text 988 (US). Free, confidential, 24/7.National Domestic Violence HotlineCall 800-799-7233 or text START to 88788. Free and confidential.

Marriage Saver is a reflection tool, not a diagnosis, and it isn’t affiliated with any of the organizations listed here.